Nov 10 2008
Game on…
All I ever wanted to do with the amazing technology of online console gaming…was awareness. I would watch my brilliant autistic son play and think, “we can raise awareness and funds through this”. Years later, I’m here! Elaine Beemer and I have Gaming4Others.org, a place to go to find out about the latest charity tournaments, causes or play in a G4O tourney.
I am so proud of our little Site! We have had many tournaments and helped to change lives. We are growing and loving every minute of it.
But, I now find myself in a position of having to defend what I love doing. I am accused of being a bad parent under the assumption that gamers are a force of evil in society. I am fighting for my kids and I’m surprised that my charity work is in question simply because it is through the gaming industry. At first I thought that gaming itself was seen as something bad, but then I realized that this wouldn’t happen if I were a man.
Father’s watch sports and it isn’t questioned for a second! Father’s can play video games…no problem. But a mother? Dos she get the same consideration? I don’t think so and I will be interested to hear what a judge thinks of my charity work.
I expressed my frustration to my friend Hal Halpin, President of the ECA. (that awesome organization that fights for the rights of gaming and gamers) He replied:
“Prosecuting gamers and gaming is the latest socially-acceptable form of discrimination. Would the court look any more of less favorably upon someone who invests several hours per night in watching prime time television? No, of course not. What about a movie or a local concert? Same.
Even the term “gamer” has a social stigma attached to it connoting something rebellious, youthful and anti-social, when all evidence points to the contrary: gamers are largely upstanding members of our culture (conformists even), adults and so thoroughly social, in a positive light, that services like Xbox Live cater to the community. Churches that once thought games the medium of exclusion now know better and embrace the medium, like they did dances in the 50’s and 60’s, and to much success.
The ECA was established, in part, to right many of these misperceptions - some of which are unfortunately used to exploit whole swaths of our population. Please let me know if I can be of any help - providing written expert testimony, or talking on the phone with the judge.”
That first paragraph really hit home…no, watching television isn’t looked down upon…And a father can play video games without anyone thinking twice about it.
I don’t just play games, that’s rare for me…I raise awareness. I filled the wish-lists of hospitalized kids, helped a young gal get a kidney transplant, raised the money to make 5 year old Mia walk, gave to childrens charities in the UK, assisted in Research for the Epilepsy Foundation, Walked for the Cure…and in a couple of months G4O will play for Autism and my dream will have come full circle. Yet I have had a friend say, “I’d just like to see a better use of your time”. I’m sure the people I just listed would disagree.
I assure you, I balance my time like any mom. I will continue to give to my kids and to my Charity site and I’ll not have it diminished by naysayers. I’m proud of my work, as a mom, as a member of the gaming community and as a female who should have the same rights as any man who chooses to pursue a career in a field he loves and believes in.
But to be sure, I may just have to take Hal up on his offer.





